Category Archives: The Daily Struggle

Every Day is a battle once one obtains a brain injury!


So for 3 years now, ever since I moved to Florida I have been getting extremely bad headaches/ migraines.

Everyday I would get these massive migraines and it would change my attitude, I would be in pain and miserable all day long!

I could not figure out the cause of them. I thought:
1. Dehydration
2. Because I had a brain injury
3. Stress
4. Lack or too much caffeine
5. Allergies

Never in a million years would I have guessed what actually led to my head aches.

Two weeks ago I noticed that my migraine would often be behind my eye. Of course, it was the one I had eye surgery on.

I thought maybe I need to wear Sun glasses. I work outside all day and I’m in Florida ( I never used to wear Sun glasses up north).

That helped immediately detenseify my migraine.

I went home and thought to my self “maybe I need to be careful on what my eyes are always doing.” I then changed the way I watched tv at night.

Haven’t got a migraine since I have made the change. If you find yourself with discomfort, don’t be afraid to make changes!


Worse than it Appears

One of the most difficult things for me being a brain injury survivor is how everyone considers you a “normal person.” People don’t understand that just because you look and usually act like a normal person, you are not! We have been through something that has altered our lives immensely.

Where I struggle with this the most is at my job, in social situations, even at home with my future wife. I struggle with it because they expect actions or answers right away. They get annoyed or frustrated when they do not see a result right away.

See the difference is that we have no visible injuries. For an example:

Lets say someone was born with out an arm or they are a veteran who lost their arm in a war. If you ask them to carry something I.E. a box of something, would you lose patience with them because they are taking to long? The answer is no. That one arm man can deliver the box it is just going to take time because he can do it but he has a certain way he must do it.

Same thing should happen to people with brain injuries but doesn’t because we have no visible injuries. So when I get asked to do something at work or get asked a question they need to let me pause, let me say ummmm, let me figure out the best way for me to do it or best way to answer the question. I can do whatever you ask me to but I got to do it my way. I have a certain way I must do things and believe it or not where I went to in-patient rehab taught me how to do this. They taught me this is how you succeed in the real world after you leave that safe sanctuary they call a hospital.

People need to slow down and think about who they are talking to, they may be worse than they appear…

Studying to be a teacher n work full time

I wake up at 5:30 am go to work and I am not home until 5 or later. 5 days a week. After I want to work out or watch a baseball game. So when am I supposed to study for the Florida Teacher Certification Exam?

See what I really want to do is teach history and coach baseball. But I need to work to support my family.

I struggle due to my injury in math, and of course even though I want too teach history, I must pass the math section of the general knowledge test before I can even think about taking the social science subject matter test.

So when will I have free time where I can achieve my goals. The answer is never! I will never have a set time where I can study. Now this doesn’t mean I can’t achieve my goals. But by this I simply mean that I will never have time, where my life slows down enough and I can focus on what I want….

You will always be busy!!!!

It is up to you to set up yourself and allow your self to succeed!

After figuring this out I began to bring my school stuff to study on my lunch break. I went to the local dollar tree, bought some things that I know I would need a notebook, note cards, calculator, etc.

Now everyday I walk next door get a breakfast sandwich to eat, sit down in the break room and study.

I am constantly making note cards, doing math problems and reading my FTCE book.

I’ve been studying so hard its starting to pay off and I am finally starting to understand how to solve problem that contain fractions in them and the other day I retook the English language arts part of it and 28 right, 29 is passing.

If you want something, you gotta go get it. No excuses, ya we have a brain injury but is that going to get us what we want?

No one is going to say “oh, they have brain injury, well let them slide on this one”….. No, they are going to hold you to the same standards as everyone else.

You can’t let having a brain injury hold you back from accomplishing your dreams.

Trouble at UPS

After working for UPS as a package handler for a week, I had to stop because of my injury. One of the jobs consisted of picking up packages that weighed up to 75 pounds and doing it as fast as I could. The other task was picking up a package, read the destination, and make sure it was in the correct order in the correct car; you had to do this as fast as possible. I thought I may be able to do this but one day I went into work and my left arm was dead. I had pretty much destroyed the right side of my brain in my car accident and the right side of your brain controls the left side of your body. When I say it was dead that’s exactly what I mean. I could not move it, hurt, it had no function. The function came back in time. I can only think that there is a direct connection between my accident and my arm reacting this way.That’s when I knew I had to get out and that this job wasn’t for me.